My 5 yr old is soooo naughty?

he doenst hit other kids or anything like that but he is a little smart mouth and it is like everydays id a continous power struggle and it takes all of my strength to not beat his little as s.


he tells me he wont eat his dinner because it is nasty (no matter what it is)


he cant pick up his toys because it is too hard and takes too long


he refuses to even TRY to learn how to tie his shoes


the hard part is that he is very smart. he is in the advanced reading group and math group in school and his teacher says he behaves beautifully in class.


i have tried whooping him, ignoring his outbursts, telling him that if he doesnt eat his dinner he isnt getting anythign else, i have been firm and he is still fighting with me.


i have a 2 and 4 yr old too and i dont want them to think that this behavior is acceptable. the 2 yr old is aleady evil (she hits the boys whenever she is mad about anything ) and my 4 yr old is a little hyprtactive but other than that okay....


what do i tdo???

My 5 yr old is soooo naughty?
Are you sure you're not talking about my son? Same age same attitude. Being firm and consistent is the only thing that has worked for me. But then he goes to grandma's and BOOM! he's forgotten how to behave again. It's very frustrating. Just thought I'd let you know that you're not alone!!
Reply:i would tell him that u will get rid of a privlidge like video games or what ever he likes.i babysit a little girl like that and i got her to listwen to me by putting her in a room by herslf for about 10 minutes and if she comes out it will b another 10 minutes. just give him a snack every once in a while if he is the room for a while then if he still doesnt call nanny911 or supernanny trust me it works really good.and if he has friends over when he decides not to listen then take his friends home if u need any morwe advice my email is mynephewronin@yahoo.com
Reply:sounds like my five year old we do something called mommie dollars ...I have a list of things i expect of him ex. behaving in school, do his work correctly/neatly...and for everything he does on my list he gets a mommie dollar and they can be cashed in for fun things like 20min of video games it has been working for a month now he is not argueing with me as much and it helps him remember to behave....
Reply:Sometimes smart mouthed kids pick it up from their parents. Do you or their father talk to him in a sarcastic or negative way?


When my son starts to complain about work, I just ask him if he would like more, because that's what he'll get if he complains. He knows that I really will give him more work because I try to follow through on my word. If he thinks I won't follow through, he won't respond favorably. He also must do it cheerfully. So sometimes I just work along with him in a fun way so that he sees that work can be fun, though it is not always.


He may just need quality time with you. With having two other younger ones, he may miss that time you once shared.
Reply:I would keep being firm and keep a still face. Eventually he will get bored and stop. And with the other kids tell them that it is not acceptible and they wiil be punished if they act like that. and with the food say he won't get anything else at all unlees he eat all of his food
Reply:Kids can't be evil.





You need to keep being firm.


And not show that what your kids are saying is getting to you.


Keep a stone face.


And eventually they will get bored and back down.
Reply:Do not bend or give in to him at all. When ever he shows inappropriate behavior put his nose in the corner. IT WORKS. Especially when you have younger kids and they know the little ones are watching.





I did this with my 5 yr old and in a month he was a new kid. He's my big helper now. Anytime he misbehaves I put him in the corner (hands behind his back) until he can apologize and show me appropriate behavior.





Sometimes he's there for a long time screaming and sometimes he's there for only a little time and gets back to how he should behave.





Good luck and give it a try.
Reply:Honey, I am in the same boat as you are. My youngest son just turned 6 on the 6th of Jan. and he is soooo naughty. He also has a smart mouth, and acts like he doesn't understand direction. Everyday, he frustrates me. But he is fine for everybody else so they think he's an angel/ I have a 12 yr.old, and an 8yr. old, and he will do anything in his power to piss them off. Whether it is break their toys, mess up their room, or just antaginize them for any reason. Then I have all 3 of them fighting. If he gets into trouble for something and has a time-out or gets a spanking, he'll cry for a little bit but then he is right back to doing what he got into trouble for. And he tries to be sneaky about it, and smiles at the same time. What I do now is , I wont let him play his video game, I'll unplug it %26amp; put it away. Or he cant go outside with his friends, so he watches them from the window. Another thing is to have him tell you why he does what he does, and then do it back to him. He does not like that what so ever. It embarrases him. Do you have trouble eating out in a public place? That is the hardest challenge for me.
Reply:You already have your hands full with 3 kids. Try to ignore what he does. If he doesn't want to eat then explain to him that u will not cook anything special , he will have to eat what u serve and if he doesn't eat it, he will get very, very sick (scare him a little).If he doesn't want to clean up his mess, tell him you are throwing away every toy that he leaves on the floor ,in the garbage. Do it or hide it away and see how he reacts when he is looking for his things. I know your situation is personal but if their dad is in their lives, make him take a stand on him. Sometimes kids are more obedient to their fathers than their mothers. I guess its the strong male look. Your son is a smart boy and knows how to get to u, that's the bad thing about it. I hope i helped. Be blessed.
Reply:Try a naural product with fish oil and evening primrose oil, it is good for childrens brain development, behaviour, memory etc.
Reply:It seems to me as if he has YOU wrapped around HIS little finger...





Is he trying to get attention? Kids will seek out any kind of attention that they can even if it is bad attention.





When I took parenting classes this was one of the topics...They suggested that you ignore the bad things he does and not say anything if possible and give him positive attention to him when he does good things...





I know this at times can be hard but very awarding when they know they can get good attention and strive to get that good attention...
Reply:As I tell myself with my 3 yr old..."I am the parent. I am the boss." It sounds like maybe with the other children he is fighting for your attention...no matter how he can get it. If you have the mindset that he is evil, then how are you reacting to him? Are you treating your child as evil? He is your baby...you're everything. Tell him he is. Make special time for the two of you. And if he continues his normal 5 yr old behavior...take away something he adores and let him cry about it. It's ok. You are the boss. You are the parent.
Reply:you need to be ferm and consistant with him,





select a methord of discipline HE HATES!, this could be, corner time, missing a certian TV show or a spanking.





then EVERY TIME he does something naughty, you punish him like that, every single time,








trust me HE will get sick of it before you do, i have two 5 year old boys, the trick is to be consistant
Reply:Sounds like he's playing you. The best advice I can offer is to be honest with him.





If you have a male role model handy: daddy, brother, your father, a mentor, use him. Get him to step up and serve as a positive example of what a man should be.





If not, you're going to have to play the part. If his supper is "nasty," have him make his own supper. Don't help. Let him do it, and see where he gets. If it takes a couple of days, it takes a couple of days. If he's playing power games with you, diffuse them. Let him know the consequences of his actions, that his brothers are counting on him as a role model, and that you won't tolerate bad behavior in your house. Yuck. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. But you have to be the adult and lay down the law. Otherwise, he'll walk all over you.





Good luck--
Reply:ahh kid. Thankfully mine are older. But the thing with kids is that you have to be VERY firm with them. The more you give them the less grateful they are. What i did with my children was if the talked back to me or didnt listen to me (which they did alot) I would take something of theirs that they realy liked. Maybe its a toy, or some television time or even going to sleep early. You have to be very firm beacuse if youre not they go back to the way they used to be.





GOOL LUCK ;)
Reply:Take him to the doctor and make sure it's not something chemical in his brain, first. Even if it's not, the dr can give you some ideas about what to do. The best advice I can give, is put him in a room alone, where he can't hurt himself or others. And don't give in to his tantrums, ever, or he will know there is a way to break you down.



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